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Originally Posted by Cromax
Oh dear, I ended up just getting back home. I was trying to convince a mate that he's not being reasonable, and he turned around and accused me of liking ... no ... being in love with his girlfriend!!!
WTF?! It's like: as if I'd be in love with his girlfriend, and even if I was, as if I'd pursue it! Apart from the fact that she is rather easy to look at, she's my mate's girlfriend, and at the end of the day I can't pursue it! Like, seriously, I'm not that sort of guy ... apart from the moral standards I keep, I could never ever ever do that to him!
Just because I'm like, the only mate who actually likes his girlfriend (I reckon she's pretty cool sometimes) ... I get accused! Is this normal? Oh Angela, please pass me some of that wisdom.
I'm so sick of being the nice guy, it's getting me into trouble!
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Hey there.. I only just saw this now... Although we've already briefly chatted about it... so I don't feel too bad about this delayed reply....
I think sometimes things like that happen in a relationship, more as a sign of weakness between the couple and when there is that weak stop within their relationship, if you happen to be standing anywhere near it... you'll be the one someone points the finger at. Maybe their relationship is a little unstable or something or maybe he is jealous that you get well with her ....
I think probably deciding that you are 'in love' with her is really going extreme. It would be one thing to be thinking you think she is alright, but loving her is pretty extreme. which is probably more of a reason that the entire thing is deeper and that there is an underlying problem between them.. (even if they don't know it yet). - (also remember everything SEEMS worse and it blown out to be a bigger drama when people haven't slept or have been drinking or whatever the case).
I would say to stick by your mate, try and be understanding of him.Which will be hard if he is telling you something you are not doing. BUt you gotta stick by your mates. If something really is a problem deeper in their relationship then he is going to need you and he will need to know he can rely on you....
Anyway that is my brief opinion on this........ will catch up soon tho. Hope it gets sorted sooner rather than later.
Morning Everyone... And Welcome to another Monday!
